By: Mollie Busino, LCSW
Did you know we can trace many individuals’ challenges to a desire for short-term gratification??
- Some individuals’ debt is a result of wanting a vacation or clothing or car NOW even if they cannot afford it.
- There are numerous individuals that continue to struggle with anxiety because they want the short-term gratification of reassurance even if they know it will just perpetuate that need in the future..
- There are couples whose arguments tend to escalate as a result of believing they need that short-term gratification of proving how they were RIGHT at that exact moment.
- Some individuals struggle with going to bed when they are tired because they like the short-term gratification of watching another episode of the latest show they are into.
The examples could go on and on on..
So what is the answer to shifting the need for short-term gratification ???
First one must identify that their behavior is driven by wanting short-term gratification but ALSO remembering the longterm ramifications of doing so. This is often difficult in the moment so initially it might be more beneficial to reflect on recent purchases, arguments, or travel plans to identify if the driving force was short-term gratification. Notice what your thoughts were in the moment and any physical sensations you had. Then identify the long-term consequences of the decision. After spending some time reflecting one will start to identify more in the moment when the need for short-term gratification is driving their actions or decisions.
When we are focused on the short-term it is often due to having a limited distress tolerance. Distress Tolerance is the ability to tolerate or accept discomfort. It is uncomfortable to wait for what we want or to not get the last word in during an argument. However, if we have the mindset that we CAN tolerate the discomfort then it will strengthen our ability to patiently wait for what is long-term best.
All living beings prefer not to have to wait for anything but as we evolve it becomes apparent that is not always the most beneficial perspective. Work with one of our therapists to learn how to build your tolerance for moving thru short-term gratification and ultimately achieving a healthier and sustainable well-being!
Counseling Hoboken; Mollie Busino, LCSW, Director of Mindful Power. Mollie has had extensive training in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Fertility Counseling, and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Her work focuses on Anxiety, Depression, Anger Management, Career Changes, OCD, Relationship, Dating Challenges, Insomnia, & Postpartum Depression and Anxiety.
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